Losing someone dear

Several of my books concern people who have been bereaved, and part of their story is how they come to terms with their loss and deal with all the issues which confront them. Deke in ‘Farholm’ had recently been widowed, Luka in ‘The Stalking of Luka Czekov’ had lost his beloved wife Rosa and in my next book, ‘Loving Judah’ Peter and Aislin struggle to come to terms with the loss of his son, Judah. My characters’ loss is a device to tell my story, and however sympathetic to them and however much I care for them, they aren’t real and their story is imaginary, a fiction.

Real loss is a so hard to cope with; the pain and grief are dreadful to bear. A friend of mine has recently published a book chronicling her own brave struggle to come to terms with the loss of her husband and partner of nearly fifty years.

The book is ‘Keys on a Brass Table: Living With Grief 2011-2012′ by Elizabeth Jerram


The profits from the sale of this book will go to charity,   Sarcoma UK:



  1. Carl D'Agostino

    Mother died on the 17th. She was 88. My parents have lived with me last 10 years. They would have been married 67 years yesterday. A sudden explosion of massive cancer was discovered just 6 weeks ago. I was her home hospice nurse , slept at her side and held her as she passed. We all must endure these rites of passage and such is the way of life. However, it is supposed to be uniquely different for me. My parents were supposed to live forever. Father and I just bounce around and off each other like two hapless bachelors.


    1. Lois

      I’m so sorry to read of your loss; I lost my mother many years ago, she wasn’t even sixty, younger than I am now, and when I passed her age, I felt a renewed grief for her. My dad died in 1995, which seems like yesterday, but I find they are constantly with me somehow, more so now.
      I hope you are comforted by having been with you mother when she left you.


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